Southington is an easy place to look like you've got it together. Apple Harvest Festival, quiet neighborhoods, a community that runs on school fundraisers and youth sports — from the outside, everyone seems comfortable and connected. But if you're white-knuckling your way through every group gathering, replaying conversations afterward to check what you said wrong, or finding reasons not to show up at all, you already know the truth: social anxiety doesn't care how nice the town looks. It follows you into the parking lot before work. It shows up at the dinner table. And it's exhausting in a way that's almost impossible to explain to someone who hasn't felt it. Sindhia Shyras, APRN — a board-certified Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner with nine-plus years of focused psychiatric experience — helps Southington residents through telehealth anywhere in Connecticut and in-person at the New Britain office, just a short drive down Route 10.
There's a version of social anxiety that looks like shyness. And there's the version you're probably living with, where it's much more than that. It's the constant self-monitoring — tracking your facial expressions, your tone, whether you talked too much or too little. It's the anticipation that starts days before an event you can't get out of, and the relief that floods in when you cancel. It's dreading judgment so much that you start shrinking your life to avoid the situations that trigger it. You're not oversensitive. You're not "just shy." And this isn't something you can fix by pushing through it harder. Social anxiety has a neurological component — and treating it means addressing that component directly.
Here's something Sindhia hears a lot from Southington patients: "I'm so tired all the time, but I'm not doing anything." That's the thing about social anxiety — the exhaustion isn't from activity. It's from vigilance. Your nervous system is running a background program that never shuts off, scanning for threat, second-guessing every interaction, preparing for the worst. By the end of a workday or a family event, you're drained in a way that sleep doesn't fully fix. And because you look functional from the outside — because you're showing up, doing your job, participating — people don't see what it's costing you. Sindhia does. She's seen it hundreds of times, and she doesn't minimize it.
Your first appointment is a full psychiatric evaluation — not a quick symptom checklist. Sindhia wants to understand how social anxiety is specifically showing up in your life. What situations are hardest? When did it start? What have you tried? She's asking because the care plan she builds with you depends on those specifics. Treatment might include medication — SSRIs and other medications can significantly reduce the baseline intensity of social anxiety — supportive therapy, or a combination of both. She'll explain exactly what she's recommending and why, and she'll tell you what timeline to realistically expect. No vague "we'll see how it goes." Sindhia speaks English, Malayalam, Tamil, and Telugu, and she accepts Aetna, Cigna, Husky Health, Medicaid, United Healthcare, Anthem, ConnectiCare, and self-pay. Cost and language won't be what gets in the way.
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